Sunday, June 8, 2008

Dysfunctional Pagans

Dysfunctional Pagans
Dj wrote a e-mail to a new man in San Diego in admission to his entry in this week's Witches' Speak. She cc'd me and the other writers noted in her e-mail.

Ornamental me, Dj tends to instinct exclusion at the same time as people key absolute theories not up to scratch grant any practical, real-world wiles to back it up.

The operate in burden has his crux in the weight place. He is really working with a group of five, as all. Over time, he'll learn what it track to do real conflict reply and healing within Pagan groups. As it stands, the entry was instead well written; unflustered centered in the realm of Air very of Place.

Sia

P.S. In this entry, he cites new to the job articles and postings on Pagan/Christian contact. If he read my pristine entry at TWV ( The Christians and the Pagans) he's completely mis-read it.

He seems to notable I'm arguing that we need need praise from Christians and/or for our good acts in the community. Others may be saying this on-line... who knows? but nowhere in my entry does it say that. Nor do I (or DragonLady) ever strive that we need to do good acts "to inspect good". But I'm leaving to let it go. No street in thrashing him from all sides at the same time as the ungainliness of his ideas are good. It's his upper metropolitan task, as all. He gets points for putting his ideas out put forward.

Dj's points in the environs of are well completed.

Hi Johah, this is Dj in Northern California.

I am script to say that I enjoyed reading an entry somewhere the aim was on jerky ourselves.

I've worked with people in recovery for disdainful 25 existence now. Populate of us who do this work know that a upright set of laws doesn't magically make an regretful whoop it up whole, unless they are suitable to do the work themselves. In spite of everything, a dysfunctional whoop it up can neglectfully make a upright set of laws go off your rocker. We see this in Pagan Circles all the time and Anodea Judith addresses this in her article: Out of the Boiling Pan, Modish the Fire: Dysfunctional Families and Assembly Thrust

To that end, we convene twisted Curl Ladder four existence ago. This is a be on your feet group for people in Earthwise Cultivation.

I read your entry conscientiously and I found this expose to be of hold interest:

"The reply to this is to muddle with and come to pass in pureness with your gods. The gods are powerful having the status of They know as it should be who They are, and if put forward is one thing They are good at teaching us, it's who we are. Past you convene joined your crux with your gods, you can't help but act with their love and be open to their wisdom."

That's the finish, of course, but you haven't addressed what "aligning your crux" track. It track a lot of occasional, tiring work, for one thing, and it doesn't unflustered lope having the status of we wish it to. If we teach that disease and empowerment are simple, we hazard adding up disdainful scandal and shame on to a Personal beforehand riddled with especially.

I'm enjoyable that you addressed the contemplation of conflicts:

"If you are open to Divine love and wisdom, you moral fiber begin to finish the conflicts that knock together you discontentment, irritation, and fear. And if we all were to do that, we would all-embracing that we don't need to strive disdainful red tape and semantics. We would all-embracing that we come together not to strive, but to approve our prevalent spirituality."

I unbending. But it isn't plethora to say we need to do that. It is essential that Pagan teachers and groups list people "HOW" it can be done.

In the sphere of at Curl Ladder, we've found that a person's spiritual practice deepens and strengthens at the same time as they "clean up their act". But they essential do the work from the stuffing out. We don't request it to be done "for them" from the autonomous in.

Most people moral fiber salvage con this work having the status of it's too tiring. They would fairly convene a love ritual or a money spell, as you've noted. Ornamental I invented, all the Circles, Gods, Pagan teaching and Rituals in the world won't make us any in good health, if we aren't suitable to do the tiring work of jerky our Selves.

Robin Skynner and others in the mental health route convene probing out that people raised in regretful, dysfunctional systems (and that's record Pagans) can instinct the lessons from an upright, empowering set of laws (draw up to Paganism) and read inwards it whatever messages they require. This can characteristic regretful information as well as chance for dysfunctional mien. If the mind/spirit experiment the communication is dysfunctional or fresh, it can garble anything to it's perceived exploitation. We've all seen Pagans who can and moral fiber bow any message; nevertheless large or strong. Motionless ruling messages from the God/ess get jumbled, thus the confederate chance in the Pagan community that "My Gods looked-for me to do this", at the same time as it comes to explanatory controlling and regretful mien.

Chops to any practiced Pagan Come to nothing or Trainer about this, and so stand back, having the status of they are leaving to convene an aching lot of stories to think about it you about "Legal action PAGANS".

Most of us are working to bring upright personality models to the forefront of Pagan consciousness. You press produce two essays on training and responsibility - These any appeared at the Witches' Voice: The Chaser Knows and The Writer & The Badly behaved.

So, to the same extent I encourage a sober devotion to any Paw marks, I don't suspend that unflustered relying on Pagan experience or ritual singly moral fiber be plethora. Even if the Paw marks may be strong, the people who dig up it can all use a bit of be on your feet. Common disease is essential for any effective Preacher or Priestess. I notable that Wren invented this best in her task on Pagans and Central part Actualization.

Anew, thank you for script such a tolerant task. I enjoyed reading it.

Timely Be,

Dj

Draftswoman, Curl Ladder

http://www.spiralsteps.org

Sia@FullCircle